Anonymous: Everyone's already bashing you so I won't add to it but I'll just say my DH doesn't "believe in" SAHMs either. Would PT not be a workable compromise? What was decided before you had the 18 month old? He takes care of our finances, but that doesn't mean I'm clueless. My employer was happy for me to do part time hours on full pay (which was great) but not I have more workload and I need to do full time hours plus travel (I’m still bfing). Men have managed to raise kids and work for generations.Or are you saying those men didnt raise their kids.Kids who go to school have stopped being raised by their parents at 5? My employer was happy for me to do part time hours on full pay (which was great) but not I have more workload and I need to do full time hours plus travel (I’m still bfing). My husband said I'm the only one with a problem so he won't go. If he’s not happy to compromise and neither are you then it may end up being a dealbreaker. That is true for the other problems in relationships as well. Once the child turns 3 they get some hours funded. It cost me £106 a month for my 2.5 year old to go Monday and Friday for 3 hours a time. Refuse-to-Work Spouse: The kids need me here. Hello! I think this is a family decision rather than an individual one. He HATES it! That he was going to be someone I could laugh with, have romantic dinners with, walk on the beach with, and enjoy the good times with, but he was also going to be someone who would stay by my side when I was at my worst. ... Subject: WWYD: Husband won't let me work part-time. I understand how you feel but it is very, very unwise to leave a flexible, well paid job to be a SAHM. Bernetteyog Tue 28-Jan-20 18:01:59. If your husband doesn't earn enough to support you two and potential kids, then it doesn't make sense that you'd fight to stay home, knowing there won't be enough money for that. I have a father.....so that's not a spot my husband needs to fill for me. Yes, got forbid the woman takes equal financial responsibility for the child she is an equal parent of.Yes, god forbid the woman takes equal responsibility for her children and wants to contribute by raising a family. A bit of nursery is great. Going to parks and stuff too. I need o calculate now but my childminder (2 DC full time) certainly doesn't get paid more than 10% of my personal income. It's already not working for you as it is, and you haven't resolved this issue with your husband so why add a second child into the mix as things stand? What would you say if your husband wanted to give up work and be a SAHP? Bernetteyog Tue 28-Jan-20 18:01:59. In the interest in fairness...would you let him give up work or go part time? Was either of your parents cold or critical when you were young? Chaunie Brusie. *I actually feel sorry for people who think a mother doesn't have the right to stay at home. The additional workload will bring a large pay rise. They get maternity. That's another reason sahm choose to stay home. When I was pregnant with our first daughter, my husband and I never really sat down to hash out what would happen after she was born. I don’t think either of you are necessarily being unreasonable, you just might find that your visions of family life might not be compatible. So surely these full time workers give most of it away anyway. It's unfair to force one person to bear full financial responsibility for a family. I am highly stressed in my job and it’s effecting my health. My husband and I have been married for 4 years and we have a 1.5 year old together. Health and time with family should always be a priority over finances. This is page 12 of 22 (This thread has 544 messages.). A pp who hadn't read my posts suggested I never mentioned SAHDs. I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). When I was pregnant with our first daughter, my husband and I never really sat down to hash out what would happen after she was born. *Don’t feel sorry for me. I would also hold off on TTC. I really don’t know where to go from here. ... She tried to not let me sleep in the bedroom, which ended up with her now residing in the guest room. How much do you both earn and where do you live?If you're looking at living on his £75k salary in a cheap part of the country it's a very different situation to living on a £25k salary in London, for ex.Do you pay for childcare or do family provide it? That being said, I have a specific job that could be done remotely. If your husband isn’t 100% enthusiastic about you staying at home, then it won’t work. I was referring to posters who said she should just quit. He say the situation is making him ill. We could afford to live on my husbands salary but would have to make cut backs but my husband likes nice holidays etc. Subject: I'm a SAHM and my husband won't let me send money to my teen son. My cousin works in one and a baby calls her mummy now. You should do whatever is best for you Op - Your dh shouldn’t be able to control what you do especially if it’s damaging to your health. My hubby, like yours, enjoys spending some kid-free time with me in the evenings. I forgot we were in 2020 where children as just commodities like dogs, to be raised by someone elseYou are kidding right? And a man like this will never be the one who will make you happy and fulfilled. Who's right? A lot of times, when a separation happens, the higher-earning spouse (let’s call him the husband, because in most cases, unfortunately, that’s still true) stops having his paycheck direct deposited into the joint account. This is page 1 of 22 (This thread has 544 messages.). He works and I agreed to stay at home since the birth of our son. The working spouse tries everything to get the spouse with Refuse-to-Work Syndrome to look for a job. Tell him to get a bloody better job. He said I will ruin our lives as we will have no money, have to get a cheaper car. I really don’t know where to go from here. What if both parents want to be a sahp.Where is the mans 'natural' need to provide for his wife and child and let his wife stay home, if he is staying at home.Non of your points make sense. Because your husband does want to spend time with you, he may be afraid that if you homeschool you won’t … If being a SAHM has always been your dream, then you should've married someone who was supportive of your dream. It's sad they don't have some calmer days at home. Take this survey - £50 voucher to be won, How have you shown your appreciation for the NHS? What does that even mean? Mums usually are at home as they birth the baby. Where you got that she would do it without discussing it, I don't know. So a bit of background. No Man Wants To Have Sex With His Mom. I had stated at the outset that a SAHD is fine the same as a SAHM. I work in midlevel management with a good salary but 60 hour weeks not open to flexibility. [Warning added by MNHQ: distressing content], Can’t get my head round what my mother has done, A plea to those who have/will stop sticking to the restrictions, Has covid-19 affected your plans to become pregnant or TTC? But we're happy to step up and help each other. I know we could afford it with me not working but he says it's not fair to him. I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. Hello! Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time (544 Posts) Add message | Report. They breastfeed etc. You won't change my view. If your husband doesn’t want to do that and he lets you do all the hard things alone, it means that he doesn’t respect you enough. Part time seems a reasonable compromise though. Baby. £200 voucher to be won, Win up to £500 worth of clothes: Share what you would buy from Zalando, Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time, Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. In no way does that equate to being “raised by someone else”. I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. A pp who hadn't read my posts suggested I never mentioned SAHDs. You should make a plan to leave. Going back full time because you can't stand being home sounds like you don't enjoy mother hood. Unfortunately as a single mum of teens, ive got to work plus id be bored. I suggest that you examine the dynamic between you and your husband more closely. However I don’t think it’s really fair to expect to give up work and your husband to work FT. If your husband doesn't earn enough to … It's no fun to be pregnant or a new parent in a state of uncertainty. My husband is my partner, not my superior. I forgot we were in 2020 where children as just commodities like dogs, to be raised by someone else, where a woman is seen as GIVING 50% to the relationship by raising a family and supporting the household (OR SAHDs, for those that want to pounce, but on this post I am responding to the devaluing of SAHMs), it's no longer a case where morals and family values and good old fashioned common sense is timeless. You have taken it upon yourself to change the narrative. 6 Stretches To Do First Thing In The Morning, According To Experts. Subject: Re:Husband will not let me be a SAHM. Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time (544 Posts) Add message | Report. In a nutshell he is pissed I didn't want to quit my job and be a SAHM for Lizzy but I do for our son and so therefore I love our son more and that makes me … My family also lives an hour away and generally if there is a party down that way, I go with the kids. Stay-at-home moms - and actually I think all women do this to a certain point- have a tendency to step away from their individual identity and invest more into being a mom and being a wife. They can't take a sick day because mummy is working. That he was going to be someone I could laugh with, have romantic dinners with, walk on the beach with, and enjoy the good times with, but he was also going to be someone who would stay by my side when I was at my worst. He HATES it! I feel like this is one of those gotcha threads where the sexes have been reversedI thought that! Anonymous: Anonymous wrote: Anonymous wrote: Anonymous wrote: Anonymous wrote: Anonymous wrote:Everyone's already bashing you so I won't add to it but I'll just say my DH doesn't "believe in" SAHMs either. Thank you, @sueEllenMiskeWell the price of childcare isn't cheap. How about an interesting well paid job instead, like the ones men seem to have? I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. A gift to see that my husband was going to be there for me no matter what. When I did. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. Perhaps he needs to apply for a higher paid job and you need to apply for something that is less stressful. Published May 6, 2015. * i feel like this is one of those gotcha threads where the sexes have been reversed*The difference with the sexes being reversed though is that DH isn’t actually carrying a baby for nine months, giving birth and then breastfeeding all whilst trying to conceive another one and hold down a high powered job with very long hours - It’s not the same. Idk if you're financially dependent on your husband but if so get your ducks in a row my friend. Husband Won't Let His Wife Be a SAHM—Say What? @Shadyshadow that’s what I meant - on MN there’s a high proportion of threads where the woman works and does everything, so it’s easy to see why lots of women reading and posting on MN want to be SAHM. FMD. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. My husband and I have almost twenty years of wrongdoing between each other. I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). If he wants the nice holidays then he will have to pay for them! Who's right? There is a possible happy medium to this, as many stay-at-home moms have discovered: earn income from home as a part-time … And what if ops husband wants to go part time or be a sahp and she does too? yes they are being raised by the nursery - so once they are at shool, your children are also raised by the school? There is no single reason that makes a man mean and disrespectful. Message deleted by MNHQ. Can you move sideways for a bit? Even if a child is in nursery 8 - 6 for 5 days a week that’s only 50 hours out of a week of 168 hours. He wants to control you so that you make him the purpose of your life. So SAHM is out but I would like to go part time so I would have more balance in my life. Yet, he won't let me go easily while I'm crying, begging for a divorce. I am highly stressed in my job and it’s effecting my health. My husband NEVER goes to the grocery store with me. I don’t know why married women say, “My husband won’t let me,” without even a whiff of self-consciousness or embarrassment. I feel like this is one of those gotcha threads where the sexes have been reversed. Theres more to life than been a sahm, dont get me wrong if you can do it them great. One parent should be available. All this adds up to a change in personality for you. Again part time is great. They are on a chaotic loud noisy room. Hello! No man wants to have sex with a wife who is constantly mothering him. I give him his space...but he also gives me mine. And treated like a dog?You are utterly ridiculous. But of course there is no reason a dad can't sahm. Who's right? A narcissistic husband is all about control. For me, it meant I was bound to our small apartment with our overactive toddler and still unpredictable infant. He's a doctor in private practice so our finances are fine. Then your children are with a parent more and there's less impact on money.I wouldn't want my partner to go part time tbh. Let’s talk a little bit about how support gets into place and how long it takes. Not this time. My husband works crazy hard hours so that I can be a SAHM, and when he isn't working he wants to take a break. It does sound like it will cause massive problems in your relationship though.Are you sure you want another child with this man?? Well the price of childcare isn't cheap. Burnout is a real thing and can be a huge obstacle to overcome, prevention is so much better than a cure! I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. Relationships. Numerous times. I was married to a man for 15 years and it started with not letting me see my friends or family. It should be a natural urge for him.Huh? I asked him to please tell me what was bothering him then so we can work through it. Small children is a hard stage? To do this he will manipulate your beliefs, he will control your thinking and your decision making and he will manage your behaviors.He will even change how you think about the world and your place in it. Four reasons why your husband is mean and disrespectful. Since having my daughter I have want to be a sahm or part time. He might enjoy some extra family time too. I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). And continued in that role in their home when they added two more children. Older kiddo is already in elementary school. I've already said or SAHDs. Bernetteyog Tue 28-Jan-20 18:01:59. This is all about respect. Get over yourself. How To Ask Someone How They’re Actually Doing Right Now. I understand you want to spend time with your DD, most people would want that, but equally most people have to work! I would never judge a SAHM because of those threads alone, equally because of those threads I’d never judge a WOHM. I said if you have no choice it can't be helped. She won't regret it. I don’t care what other people do and don’t judge them for their choices but I was not put on this Earth to be kept by another human being and to spend my whole life as a mother and home maker. It's perfectly acceptable either way! Your marital partner should be your teammate and there is no place for lies in your relationship, even when the truth is harsh and tough. Staying at home can be a long term solution to a short term problem.I'm not understanding the part time work/full time pay scenario - sounds great! My family also lives an hour away and generally if there is a party down that way, I go with the kids. Oh and I wish people would give over with shit about kids of working parents “being raised by someone else”. It does kind of hurt that my ex’s new wife is a SAHM, but I’m thankful for that too because she is able to be with my kiddo during this Covid epidemic while daycares and schools are closed. I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). I have explained this to my husband but he does not want me to leave my job as it is flexible but doesn’t understand the stress and desperation to spend more time with my daughter. We have massive arguments about it. £200 voucher to be won, Win up to £500 worth of clothes: Share what you would buy from Zalando, Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time, Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. It's just the way nature intended it. Yesterday, USA Today posted a column on their website, entitled Why I Won’t Let My Wife Quit Her Job. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. As others have said, this will be very expensive for 2 children. How many times have we read things like ‘I work full time, I allocate all my AL to the school holidays, my husband won’t take time off if the kids are sick because he thinks his job is more important, my husband won’t shop, cook or clean and today I’m home sick and he refused to do the drop off’. poor man having to provide for his family) She has said they have discussed it, had many arguments about it, so she obviously is not just forcing him to provide for his family. Anonymous: I had to work 24 hours a week at an internship for 3 years of schooling go - 3 full days/2 days of school (5-6 classes) and it very much impacted my grades. My husband NEVER goes to the grocery store with me. I find that incredibly sad! [Warning added by MNHQ: distressing content], Can’t get my head round what my mother has done, A plea to those who have/will stop sticking to the restrictions, Has covid-19 affected your plans to become pregnant or TTC? So surely these full time workers give most of it away anywayOP is the main earner and a high stress managerial job. Subject: I'm a SAHM and my husband won't let me send money to my teen son. Your DH needs to understand that you are suffering, stress is affecting your health and your parenting, and these things unchecked can lead to far bigger problems than smaller cars and less holidays. For the sake of 3 years??? As it is right now, I run myself ragged doing for everyone else and never for myself. @katharinaRosalieNo they are getting an education! @Shadyshadow You have taken it upon yourself to change the narrative. Good luck. These years won't come back. Thank you. But it's a false narrative and irrelevant.Didnt say she did. Subject: I'm a SAHM and my husband won't let me send money to my teen son. @SueEllenMishkeBut sahm are not doing what's right? Op should invest a couple of years into her child before she goes to school. Friends may hav… You noticed that animals in the wild keep their young with them. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. Photo by david_shankbone. Husband Doesn't Respect Me Because I'm a SAHM. It’s equally clear why those threads may encourage women to be WOHP. It would be very stressful for your husband to be the sole earner, and whilst he seems to be expressing himself badly, he does have a valid point. And that was another position she took pride in. The ones where you can then later work 15-20 hours to get a bit of pocket money? I'm talking babies and toddlers. We have a daughter who is 2 and I am almost 12 weeks pregnant. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. yes they are being raised by the nursery.No they aren't. NOWHERE has the OP suggested she will just quit or force her husband to provide for her (the horror! To be repulsed at this outcome? Subject: Re:Husband will not let me be a SAHM. Oh no, no one cares for timeless common sense anymore, when they can devalue the contribution a SAHM gives. Bernetteyog Tue 28-Jan-20 18:01:59. Raising children is so much more than being with them 24/7. S/he asks nicely, begs, gets angry, hopes s/he's planted a seed and gives it time. One way to be at home more for your toddler is to have another maternity leave of course. To be repulsed at this outcome? It doesn't have to be all or nothing?Did you enjoy your job before? Part time hours on full pay? They have to go. I have explained this to my husband but he does not want me to leave my job as it is flexible but doesn’t understand the stress and desperation to spend more time with my daughter. Statements like that do nothing but make women feel like shit. Would your employer let you reduce to part time but for a few years, and have you costed the impact of the change on your family? To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. So instead of lying on the sofa watching Tele and sleeping. Then the mum could work 15-20 hi ours a week and keep a wage. He said I will ruin our lives as we will have no money, have to get a cheaper car. Okay, now let's look at the list of 8 reasons your husband won't have sex with you: 1. And as noted by the above poster - I presume then you acknowledge when your children go to school at age 5, they’re being raised by someone else - by your definition. I don’t want to be around my husband any more and need help getting out of this mess of a relationship. My ex was working full time the money wasnt great, eventually i said i had had enough and wanted to work again. She sees her mum about 3 hours a day and is with my cousin 10.I've also not said people should not work. Wellness. Bernetteyog Tue 28-Jan-20 18:01:59. Who don't understand that marriage is a team, and one who does 50% of the work by staying home, raising a family, attending to the household etc is somehow 'lesser' than a man who does the other 50% by earning.Staying at home is as much if not more so as taxing as 'earning', and I can only presume those that smugly insinuate a SAHM is a bludger, don't have kids and have no idea what it is to be the one at home raising the family.The job is just as valuable as earning actual money. Hello! I must admit I would be v unhappy if my partner unilaterally decided to make me the only breadwinner and solely responsible for the financials. Where do I get one of those? Isn't that what we women have wanted RECOGNISED? Simply because childcare for 2 under 2 will be extortionate. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines. A lot of times, when a separation happens, the higher-earning spouse (let’s call him the husband, because in most cases, unfortunately, that’s still true) stops having his paycheck direct deposited into the joint account. So in that case, yes, the nursery worker is doing the majority of the child rearing. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. Published May 6, 2015. Stay-at-home moms feel guilty for being exhausted and worry they’re not keeping the house neat enough or taking good enough care of the kids, even when their husbands aren’t complaining. I had stated at the outset that a SAHD is fine the same as a SAHM. Baby. I wanted to stay home with our daughter after she was born but my husband insisted I go back to work so I did. I think SAHP-ing has to be by mutual agreement. Also children are often run down and poorly at nursery. Can you change job? He can be so petty. Nevertheless, it's a big step to go from the higher earner to SAHM and if your DH doesn't want to suddenly be the sole breadwinner that's understandable too.You need to work through this together and find a solution that suits both of you. I'm not sure I would even want to SAH but if I did, it isn't an option lol. Not judging people for not working. Anyway, no he can’t stop you leaving your job. How about you both drop a day? For our daughter, it meant she would not get to go to her favorite place. Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time (544 Posts) Add message | Report. That's how it's supposed to be. So if she went full time we are talking £700-£900It's great if you have family helping for free. What does sahm, being norm years ago have to do with anything. I also said part time or one full and another part time. Husband Won't Let His Wife Be a SAHM—Say What? To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. The child can play and have a fun. My friends hate to come by and spend time with me because he gets jealous. It's expensive to go to work! Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time (544 Posts) Add message | Report. It sounds like it would be better for you to hold off TTC your second child while this situation is ongoing. @SueEllenMishke yes they are being raised by the nursery. I don't understand pp - one person leaving their job shouldn't be a unilateral decision in a household. When I did.Then your argument doesnt make sense. I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. We had a similar situation and I was able to negotiate a part-time first, now I work remotely for multiple clients. I feel like he is hanging over me all the time, telling me what I can or can’t do and why I am always wrong. I'm wondering what the responses would be if the roles were reversed on this thread.I think the decision for anyone to be a SAHP needs to be a joint decision. Hello! 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